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The Sparkle Trap is a memoir-meets-manual for people navigating or recovering from narcissistic abuse. Through vivid scenes, sharp humor, and clear language, Daniel de Llano maps the dynamics of narcissistic abuse and shows how they play out in LGBTQ+ love.
Blending lived experience with practical tools, readers learn to spot manipulation in real time, rebuild self-trust, plan exits that prioritize safety over urgency, and understand why "just leave" often backfires.
Direct, compassionate, and queer, The Sparkle Trap offers a grounded path out of confusion: understand the pattern, interrupt the cycle, and choose yourself without apology. It's both a lifeline and a handbook-an honest companion for anyone ready to start minimizing harm and living on their own terms.
"Daniel has given the world a masterpiece of truth and restoration. You will leave these pages not as a victim of your story, but as the author of a new one. The Sparkle Trap is not just a book—it is initiation. An initiation into the brilliance you were born with, the freedom you deserve, and the love that begins within you."
— Francesca Facio, Coach, Speaker and Author of Unleash Your Wings & How to be Human in the Age of AI
"This is a really refreshing take on narcissistic relationships, and it’s genuinely one of the clearer, more helpful takes on the topic. Those little exercises and reflections are gold. They are super practical and the kind of thing that can be used directly with clients to help them make sense of their experiences and build healthier patterns. I would definitely recommend your book to my clients and my colleagues."
— Michael Williamson, LMFT.
"I know Daniel both professionally — as an exceptional coach and hypnotherapist — and personally, as a dear friend. I’ve witnessed firsthand the love, passion, and authenticity he pours into everything he does, and this book is no exception.
What amazed me most is how Daniel takes such a complex subject and makes it beautifully simple and accessible to everyone. Through his words, he doesn’t just explain — he walks beside you, gently guiding and supporting you every step of the way. You can feel his presence as he helps you release what no longer serves you and transform your experiences into strength, clarity, and freedom.
This is more than just a book. It’s a companion on your journey — a step-by-step guide to your own rebirth, a friend you can always count on, and a safe space where you can let go and rediscover yourself."
— Simona VLADAN, Psychologist, Hypnotherapist & Transformational Coach
Scan the QR codes inside to unlock videos, bonus content, practical exercises, and exclusive access to Narci-AI™ — your interactive companion, ready to guide you when you need it most.
I don’t use scripts. My English is imperfect...
But my heart is wide open, to guide you through the complex, painful, and liberating journey of leaving a narcissistic abusive relationship in the LGBTQ+ community.
In a community that’s significantly smaller than the straight world, where many of us grew up feeling “different,” where social circles overlap in the same city, where “openness” and a wide variety of sexual dynamics are the norm, and where even humor can be weaponized, narcissistic abuse can quietly expand to unbelievable limits.
When we finally recognize and leave a toxic dynamic like a narcissistically abusive relationship, we’re often left facing a limited number of queer spaces: bars, clubs, community centers, dating apps, even professional networks; all tangled with the same friends and the same community. Suddenly, going zero contact isn’t just an emotional decision... it’s a social chess game.
In this book, we’ll get tactical together: to help you navigate dealing with a narcissist, protect yourself (including your social image), leave on your own terms whenever possible, and heal in a way that lets you reclaim your place and your peace in our shared community.
I’m Daniel de Llano, a Spaniard living between Madrid and San Francisco, and the author of The Sparkle Trap. I’m a certified coach and hypnotherapist helping people break free from fear, self-doubt, and toxic relationship cycles.
With a background in performing arts, neuroscience-based tools, and lived experience, I create resources that are as practical as they are empowering. I’m passionate about making recovery inclusive, especially for the LGBTQ+ community, and I write with honesty, sharp humor, and deep compassion for those navigating or escaping abuse.
This book is both a lifeline and a roadmap for reclaiming your voice, safety, and joy.
See you on the other side of The Sparkle Trap.